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Be Fine

Oh, the commencement speech that Ellen gave at Tulane University.

I read it once and laughed. I read it again and teared up. I read it a third time wishing I had written the words - and that is when I decided that I had to share it here with you.

There are times in life where it takes so much bravery and conviction just to be who you are. But it's so worth it. You can't live fully behind any kind of mask. You can't love fully unless you just let your heart go. You can't succeed unless you are fully applied.

Don't waste time being afraid. Love and life are here for the taking. We just have to be open enough to let what is ours come to us and be willing to embrace it.

Thank you Ellen for taking a risk years ago.
Thank you to the people in my life who made every inch of understanding take me a mile.

"Really when I look back on it, I wouldn't change a thing. I mean, it was so important for me to lose everything because I found out what the most important thing is, is to be true to yourself. Ultimately, that's what's gotten me to this place. I don't live in fear, I'm free, I have no secrets. and I know I'll always be ok, because no matter what, I know who I am. So In conclusion, when I was younger I thought success was something different. I thought when I grow up, I want to be famous. I want to be a star. I want to be in movies. When I grow up I want to see the world, drive nice cars, I want to have groupies. To quote the Pussycat Dolls. How many people thought it was "boobies", by the way? It's not, it's "groupies".

But my idea of success is different today. And as you grow, you'll realise the definition of success changes. For many of you, today, success is being able to hold down 20 shots of tequila. For me, the most important thing in your life is to live your life with integrity, and not to give into peer pressure. to try to be something that you're not. To live your life as an honest and compassionate person. to contribute in some way. So to conclude my conclusion: follow your passion, stay true to yourself. Never follow anyone else's path, unless you're in the woods and you're lost and you see a path, and by all means you should follow that. Don't give advice, it will come back and bite you in the ass. Don't take anyone's advice. So my advice to you is to be true to yourself and everything will be fine."



And everything will be fine. Because where there is honesty there is explanation, complete surrender and endless reward.
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Yogi teabag quote of the day "Be proud of who you are."

Comments

Anonymous said…
Jamie, thank you for posting this - I hadn't heard it before! Such a simple thing - be true to yourself, and yet so often in life, it is ourselves we let down. I like this post a lot - it is a good reminder of what is important in life.
Chuck Dilmore said…
i just love her.

thanks for the post -
had not read that!

peace~

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